Do you have a problem controlling your anger?
It’s normal to feel irritation or anger at times; it’s a natural human response to certain life experiences. People often claim to feel anger in response to believing they are being attacked, judged, insulted, deceived or frustrated. It becomes a problem when it is triggered too easily and provokes an extreme response and harms you or the people around you.
Often, anger problems are due to poor management of our emotions. Anger, like all emotions, involves physiological and chemical changes in the body. Unresolved anger can lead to high blood pressure, heart attack, depression and anxiety. When anger gets out of control, it can be destructive and significantly impact your quality of life – affecting your career, your relationships and overall well-being
Anger can range from irritability through to rage, however, in general, any form of anger is caused by the belief that life is unfair and/or someone has violated our internal beliefs about how someone ‘should’ or ‘should not’ behave.
You cannot control the situations that might provoke your anger, but you can learn to manage your attitude to them with CBT, which can help with all kinds of anger issues from mild irritation to explosive, violent rage.
How can counselling help?
Anger management counselling is designed to help you to explore the underlying causes of your anger. You will be encouraged to look at some of the unhelpful beliefs about anger that may have been present in your family and how your anger is affecting your relationships and impacting your quality of life.
Counselling will help you recognise and accept your anger issues. You will be helped to explore and identify your trigger points for anger early on along with identifying thoughts and beliefs they do not lead to logical or rational conclusions. Your counsellor will use CBT to work with you how you think and react to certain situations. You will learn skills to help you manage angry feelings more effectively allowing you to express yourself while remaining calm and in control.
Further Reading and self-help on anger management
‘Anger Management’ A Guide on How to Control Your Life and Deal with Your Relationships – by Alan Tucker (2015)
‘Overcoming Anger and Irritability: A Self Help Guide Using Cognitive Behavioural Techniques’ (2009) by Dr. William Davies
‘Managing Anger’ Simple Steps to Dealing with Frustration and Threat’ (2000)